If there are any ex-offenders who run across my website I welcome any response telling of your experience and how you have change your life.
Hello to all of my followers. I know I have not been on my site for a minute, however, I still taking care of my business. I have enrolled in grad school now, going for my MSP, masters in psychology. So I have been busy with yet another goal in my life since being released from prison, after doing 20 years. I have now been out for almost 11 years. I am still focused, with my mind as strong as ever. Now, I am waiting to hear from you!
Sam R Ford
Unless I abide by the terms of my conditions of worth, I cannot look upon myself in a positive manner.
Individuals who have come to this conclusion must begin to avoid certain behaviors and attitudes, regardless of how satisfying they might otherwise be. —-therefore, they can no longer function in full freedom. They must judge and weigh their behaviors closely, and so, they are prevented from fully developing or actualizing themselves, because certain behaviors can no longer be expressed.—-In a sense, I inhibit my own development by having to live within the confines of my conditions of worth.
With this in mind, I have trapped myself to my own conditions of worth. I restrain my own development by having to live within the confines of my own conditions of worth. We must excel to a higher standard of excellence!
Sam R Ford BSW
The men in our society have lost their God-given position. We have truly fallen from the grace that was given to us as a man. When the head is lost and confused-the head being the MAN! then our families are lost and confused and then our society becomes lost and confused as well. I believe that this is one of the reasons why our young men of today have ended up the way they are now, because there is not many strong MEN today. Babies having babies! How can they be a strong head of household when they were not taught and shown what it really means to be a true father or the Head/Provider!
How can we as a society begin to redeem ourselves as Men and Heads of household? One thing is for sure, our Thinking has to change! If we can’t change the way we think as a man, then we can’t change the course of our young men today. We need more strong fathers to get involved in our communities and with patience and perseverance, and teach our young men what it means to be a Father. Those of us who has gone through the vicissitudes of life are the ones who must take that stand and be willing to teach our young men how and what it really means to be a Father. Being a man is one who accepts all the responsibilities and the challenges of life. Not one who blames everything and everyone for their misfortunes and hard times or struggles.
As a man, you must be willing to listen attentively and apply the skills and knowledge that is being taught to you from someone who has gone through the same problems and setbacks.
We must change our belief system. Our belief system is the main thing that has gotten us all messed up now. But then, that’s all we have is our belief system, which is comfortable and easy. But if we look at it, where has our belief system gotten us? No where! but stuck blaming others for our misfortunes.
So, let’s start by changing the way we think and then we can begin to change that old faulty messed up thinking into positive thinking. Let us begin to set some realistic goals and develop those goals into a plan and put that plan in motion. Let’s do it!!!!
Sam R Ford BSW
This is a group where we come together and discuss our thoughts and feelings.
We will engage is a whole new [journey]-well, I’ll use the word migration, migration because when on a journey, you return to where you started and by migrating, you leave from where you were and begin with a new beginning. This new beginning may seem weird or strange to you. You will have thoughts like, “man, this is not me” or “my dudes will think I have become soft”. Even the negative energy that promote these kinds of thoughts will be more intensified. Why? Because, the negative energy does not agree with the positive energy that you have tapped into now.
However, each individual must by all means be totally honest with themselves. We know the whole truth about ourselves. We must not wear that mask any longer. The mask that we hide behind. The one that puts up that front in public.
It’s been too long now, WE-as X Offenders- have been chasing a dream that will just not happen because we have been going about it the wrong way. No wonder we always end up at the same spot, because we keep trying to reach new goals and dreams with the same old way of thinking.
WE must change our way of thinking. Thoughts create behavior, not behavior creates thoughts. This is the beginning of change! If you have joined this group, then you have taken the first step to a New Way of Thinking.
You should begin to keep a journal on your thoughts and feelings. You must be true to this new way of thinking or change will occur and become defeated as in the past. If your mind can conceive it, and your heart can believe it, then YOU can achieve IT!
Sam R. Ford/GenerationX
The Man and the Mask
September 24, 1990
I admit that I am the man with the mask. I wear it every day, until the lights go out. Then I feel safe in taking off my mask and being myself, with myself.
I bury my head in my pillow and brace myself for the flashbacks of my memories. My tears are silent, but the pain burns deep in my heart, placing the memories deep and deeper into my soul.
In the daytime when I use the phone or receive a letter from a loved one, it reflects the pain I feel. I sit down to write, since I can’t share my feelings with anyone or allow them to know how I am actually feeling sad and hurt and lonely.
It doesn’t matter because I am always prepared with my mask of happiness or my mask of portraying that I’m all right. It is very easy to hide behind my mask, but the pain it costs to wear it, is overwhelming.
I am the man-and-my emotions are the mask.
I wrote this during my time in prison….
Sam R. Ford BSW
Understanding who we “Really” are!
First and foremost, we are spiritual beings having human experiences. We are a spirit and we have a soul and we are housed in this body. When God the Creator blew into the nostril of Adam, Adam became a living soul. The soul consists of the intellect and the emotion and the ability to reason.
Our spirit man came from the CREATOR/GOD. When the body dies, the spirit returns to the Creator. However, the soul, which is the conscious state of the soul=the consciousness/awareness. This is what will live forever, whether it is with its Creator or with that fallen angel known as Lucifer.
Now listen! With all this being said. Here we are today. This is the challenge that we are faced with today. After the broken relationship between Adam and the Creator, there was put before mankind the power of Choice and that choice became THE CHALLENGE OF MANKIND, listen to what God said in Genesis the 4th chapter and verse 7. The Creator told Cain who killed his brother that> “you will be accepted if you respond in the right way. But if you refuse to respond correctly, then watch out! Sin is waiting to attack and destroy you, and you must subdue it.” (NLT)
In the (NIV) it says>if you do what is right, will you not be accepted? But if you do not do what is right, sin is crouching at your door; it desires to have you, but you must master it.”
In the (NAB) it says>if you do well, you can hold up your head; but if not, sin is a demon lurking at the door: his urge is toward you, yet you can be his master.”
Here we are with the challenge to respond correctly, and if we choose to be the master of sin, then we have chosen correctly. But if we choose to live in a broken relationship with our creator, we have chosen incorrectly and therefore sin becomes our master.
Think about this question. Doesn’t it seem foolish to respond incorrectly to the One who has created you? Sure it does, especially when this Creator can just simply stop thinking about you and you will no longer exist. David said in Psalms the 8th chapter and verse 4>what are people that you should think about them, mere mortals that you should care for them? (NLT).
The sin that was mentioned above can be categorized as that old sin nature which operates out of that negative energy that flows throughout the universe. There are negative and positive energy/forces. What happens is this, when a person decides to change their life and do what is right, that negative energy intensifies. All the tests and challenges become tantamount.
We must remember, that old sin nature-that being, our habits, weaknesses, addictions, this is the enemy who sits and crouches at the door, it desires to have you and it/he will never go away. It/he will remain there until we die. However, we can master it and we should be in control of the choices and the decisions that we make in life. We are responsible for our own actions and behavior. Our behavior is dictated by whichever energy or forces we allow to control our thinking.
It’s like this; we have lived and operated for so long out of the negative energy, because that’s all we know. We were born into this body of sin. WE had nothing to do with it. The first sin of disobedience was passed on to us, that old sin nature. And so, when we change our lives and begin to operate out of the positive forces, the negative forces becomes really hard to leave behind. But, we can master it, it can only come through what was, what use to be in control. Understand this, when we were operating out of the negative energy there was no challenge because you did what you wanted to do, this is all we knew. “Allow me to stop here and explain allegorically what the negative and positive forces are; the negative forces represent the enemy/devil/Lucifer and the positive forces represent God/the Creator/Jesus Christ”.
I feel that if we have a better understanding of this spiritual realm then we will better understand how to live in this world, and how to better respond when these negative test, challenges, habits want to exert itself, especially when it comes to the crimes and troubles and wars and killings that we hear about over news. These are the last days in which we are living and that old enemy does not care who it destroys.
So the question becomes, where am I going to spend Eternity? Whether you believe in this concept or not, it remains a FACT! We will spend it in either two ways, with our Creator or separated from our Creator. Trust This! It is going to happen! I would rather take my chances in living the way I was created to live than to not live out my purpose and then when death comes and I have to face my Creator.
Now, I didn’t want to come with no big words or no super slick words. I just wanted this to be very simple so that anyone can understand it. The whole thing in a nutshell is this, either you manage you or something or someone will manage you…either way, you will be managed! I refuse to allow SIN to manage me, I will master it! And it can be done, we just have to be determined and committed and stay focused.
SRF Generation X