The Process

 

I have note blogged in a while and I needed to update everyone on what has been going on with me.  As it turned out, I suffered an Ischemic Stroke in February and I have been undergoing a regiment of many medications in an effort to lesson the possibility of suffering another episode.  As I have stated in my last blog, I did obtain my Master of Science of Psychology.

It was my goal to enter my Doctoral program, but that has since been tabled until further notice, however, I am in the process of writing my life’s story and how I came to be where I am today in my life.  I have mentioned in a previous blog that, it is my hearts desire to reach as many as possible, those individuals who have or are in the position that I was in, and that is, being behind those prison walls.

Since I have been employed as a public employee and working with adult felons, I have seen many who have lost the struggle with CHANGE.  This process of change is not an easy task and, it requires dedication, determination, and commitment to that CHANGE.  We must position ourselves with a made-up mind that “no matter what, and by any means necessary, I will not give up”.  It must be clearly understood that the negative energy will be intensified because we have chosen to travel that road to change.  This is a road that has been identified as being less traveled, but I am here to attest that it can be done with perseverance.

If we think differently, we can behave differently.  This is where it all begins, with our “Thinking”.  This process is a long process and one must be committed to changing his or her belief system.  It is our belief system that has us trapped into thinking that it is so hard and boring.  Then we become trapped into reverting to our old way of wanting the easy way out and that is our old comfort zone.  Of course, this may appear to be less complicated and leads to an easy excuse for us to minimize our current decision to accept defeat.

This New Way of Thinking must be practiced.  First there must be a life plan developed.  One must create a list of five goals and the plan should describe that process of reaching each goal.  Allow me to clarify this one point, “if you do not commit to following your plan, then it is like not having a plan.  If you work for the plan, the plan will work for you.  The goals should be short-term goals that are obtainable within a 1 to 5 year period.  Keep in mind how we said that the negative energy will appear to be intensified because it wants you to revert back into thinking those old negative thoughts and emotions.  I have developed a concept of an equation, this is the equation that the enemy presents to us, first, we must remember that we are in a positive state at this point which is represented by “0”.  The equations have these signs:  + 1 =.   Here is how it looks,  0 + 1 = 1.  As I’ve said, the zero represents the individuals who remain positive about his or her change, the plus sign represents the negative energy and the number one represents our old belief system and the equal sign represents the consequences and the results of the equations depends on how we respond to the challenges of life’s circumstances or events, in other words, “the vicissitudes of life”.  This post will be continued in another post as we move forward.

Sam Ford, BSW, MSP, CDCA

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The next Chapter

I have now obtained my Master of Science of Psychology Degree.  I have now been out of prison for 11 years and I will now begin a new chapter in my life in which it is making an attempts to reach out more to this heterogeneous population of which I was once a part of.  Now that I have become a changed individual and a productive member of society, I am now involved with this heterogeneous population.  I believe that my experience of being incarcerated for 20 years was not just for me to learn something about myself, but to be an integral part in assisting those individuals who have reached that point of really wanting to change his or her life fully.  I have said on a number of occasions, “When the pain of remaining the same outweighs the pain of change, change will occur”.

Those of us who are Ex-offenders are the ones who will set that generation of ex-offenders of change, and prove to society that WE can change and be a productive member in our communities.  Change does not come easy, it is hard but achieveable.  There must be a written plan set in place in an effort to reach our goals.  I am a living example that people can change.  Since I’ve been out, I have accomplished the goals within my life plan, and that is obtaining my MSP degree.  I have also obtained my Chemical Dependency Counselor Assistance license.  I have obtained my BSW degree.

It is my greatest desire to be an effective individual in the lives of those individuals who have gone down that road of being behind bars.  With this, I like to say that if you truly want to travel this road of change, then let’s begin.

Sam R. Ford, BSW, MSP, CDCA

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Moving Forward

This is another chapter in my life that is approaching its end, well, at least in this area.  I have obtained my Master of Science of Psychology.  This is yet another defining moment in my life.  Who would ever thought that someone like me would have come so far, especially being in prison for 20 years, after serving a 15 to life sentence.

This is to show all those individuals who think life may be over after serving time in prison.  Really, if you look at, after being released, life is just beginning all over again.  This  is based on whether or not if you begin as such.  You can rebuild your life to whatever your dreams may be.  No one can hold you back except “YOU” yourself.  We are our own worst enemy.    You can do anything you want to do “if your mind can conceive it and your heart can believe it, you can achieve it” (author unknown).

Sam Ford, MSP

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X-Offenders

If there are any ex-offenders who run across my website I welcome any response telling of your experience and how you have change your life.

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Another Journey

Hello to all of my followers.  I know I have not been on my site for a minute, however, I still taking care of my business.  I have enrolled in grad school now, going for my MSP, masters in psychology.  So I have been busy with yet another goal in my life since being released from prison, after doing 20 years.  I have now been out for almost 11 years.  I am still focused, with my mind as strong as ever.  Now, I am waiting to hear from you!

Sam R Ford

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Trapped

Unless I abide by the terms of my conditions of worth, I cannot look upon myself in a positive manner.
Individuals who have come to this conclusion must begin to avoid certain behaviors and attitudes, regardless of how satisfying they might otherwise be. —-therefore, they can no longer function in full freedom.  They must judge and weigh their behaviors closely, and so, they are prevented from fully developing or actualizing themselves, because certain behaviors can no longer be expressed.—-In a sense, I inhibit my own development by having to live within the confines of my conditions of worth.
With this in mind, I have trapped myself to my own conditions of worth.  I restrain my own development by having to live within the confines of my own conditions of worth.  We must excel to a higher standard of excellence!

Sam R Ford BSW

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Change

The men in our society have lost their God-given position.  We have truly fallen from the grace that was given to us as a man.  When the head is lost and confused-the head being the MAN! then our families are lost and confused and then our society becomes lost and confused as well.  I believe that this is one of the reasons why our young men of today have ended up the way they are now, because there is not many strong MEN today.  Babies having babies!  How can they be a strong head of household when they were not taught and shown what it really means to be a true father or the Head/Provider!

How can we as a society begin to redeem ourselves as Men and Heads of household?  One thing is for sure, our Thinking has to change!  If we can’t change the way we think as a man, then we can’t change the course of our young men today.  We need more strong fathers to get involved in our communities and with patience and perseverance, and teach our young men what it means to be a Father.  Those of us who has gone through the vicissitudes of life are the ones who must take that stand and be willing to teach our young men how and what it really means to be a Father.  Being a man is one who accepts all the responsibilities and the challenges of life.  Not one who blames everything and everyone for their misfortunes and hard times or struggles.

As a man, you must be willing to listen attentively and apply the skills and knowledge that is being taught to you from someone who has gone through the same problems and setbacks.

We must change our belief system.  Our belief system is the main thing that has gotten us all messed up now.  But then, that’s all we have is our belief system, which is comfortable and easy.  But if we look at it, where has our belief system gotten us?  No where!  but stuck blaming others for our misfortunes.

So, let’s start by changing the way we think and then we can begin to change that old faulty messed up thinking into positive thinking.  Let us begin to set some realistic goals and develop those goals into a plan and put that plan in motion.  Let’s do it!!!!

Sam R Ford BSW

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